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Prancing Elites of Mobile, AL Basketball Game 2013 

You know I have zero problem with these young men expressing themselves on this dance team. In fact, I’m surprised that this is going on in Alabama and I want to hi-five ‘em for the gumption alone.

HOWEVER, I’d find those moves ridic and those outfits a two-thumbs-down on a group of young women as well.

My shade is universal. My shade knows no hate, no norms, no barriers.

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Tweets from last year…

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We do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of men. We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls: ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. If you are the breadwinner in your relationship with a man, you have to pretend that you’re not, especially in public otherwise you will ‘emasculate’ him.’

But what if we questioned the premise itself— why should a woman’s success be a threat to a man? What if we decide to simply dispose of that word? And I don’t think there’s an English word I despise more than ‘emasculation.’

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, TedxEuston (x)

All of the truth. She’s incredible!

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But feminism is not, in fact, all about choosing your choice. It is mostly about recognizing when things are fucked up for women at the societal level, and talking about that, and trying to change it. So sometimes, even when a decision is right for you, you still need to recognize that you made that decision within a social context that overwhelmingly supports your choice, and punishes women who make a different one.

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I'm pretty sure there's plenty of white people side-eyeing that name too and calling it 'white trash'. Don't mean to digress but classism does exist.

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tomithejellyfish:

ahatefulcuss:

White people must be stopped.

this is that shit that pisses me off because black people get shit on for for having names like “Shaniqua” and “Lakieshia” and all that but white people get to name their kids shit like this nah fuck that son 

I’m all for people’s names being respected no matter how different from the norm they might be. Rock on baby Lakynn! I mean, who is to judge what is a “good” name, a “white name” or a so-called “ghetto name” (a phrase fraught with so much wrong)? But this double standard needs to be called out. I guarantee you that a black child named Lakynn (how do you pronounce that?) would get the side eye but the same name bestowed upon a white child would seem unique and creative.
Funny. Every time black folks do something unique, creative, or magically make something out of nothing it’s called ghetto and summarily dismissed until mainstream culture (read: white) decides it’s cute (i.e. nail art, hair extensions, twerking, etc).

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Suppose a man makes unwanted social advances to a woman in, let’s say, a restaurant or theatre, and she eventually has to tell him loudly or angrily to get lost. She is the one who will be perceived as rude, hostile, aggressive, and obnoxious. His verbal aggression and invasiveness are accepted and expected; her rudeness (or mere curtness) in getting rid of him is noticed and condemned. One of our great myths is that a “real lady” can and should handle any difficulty, defuse any assault, without ever raising her voice or losing her manners. Female rudeness or violence in resistance to male aggression has often been taken to prove that the woman was not a lady in the first place, and therefore deserved no respect from the aggressor or sympathy from others.
D.A. Clarke, “A Woman With a Sword” (via wretchedoftheearth)

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